Break Away from the Negative

Have you ever heard of the concept of mirroring? It’s the idea that as people, we naturally become the sum of the 4-5 people with whom we spend the most time.

A University of California, San Diego study noted: “Imitation may be the sincerest form of flattery, but clueless copycatting comes at a cost. Mimicry can act as a kind of “social glue” in human relationships. It fosters trust. Two people who like each other will often unconsciously mirror each other’s mannerisms in subtle ways.”

In other words, we can take on the attitudes, opinions, and even body language of those in our social group without even knowing it! Inherently, this is not a bad thing. But dream-chasers and life-changers need to be especially careful with who and what they surround themselves.

If you are trying to embrace the positive in a tough situation, sacrifice for a dream, or take on a new challenge, the nay-sayers in your world can steal your momentum. No need to cut them out. But be sure you are actively drowning out the negative with positive.

Seek out your cheerleaders, biggest supporters, and top fans! Mimic the spirit and drive of those you admire and channel the energy of those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you!


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